When my mom told me that DCF was looking for a family for her, I immediately knew I wanted her. The problem was convincing my husband. At the time I was only 21, still in college and we had only been married 7 months! After mentioning my feelings to my hubby he immediately shot it down. “We are too young, you’re still in school, etc”. He had valid points but I was heart broken. 100% heart broken. For two weeks I moped around, teared up over little things and was just saddened that I wouldn’t be able to be this child’s mother, to give her the love that I knew I was capable of giving.
Each weekend we would pick Cass up from her foster family and we would keep her for the weekend. That lasted for a few weeks until we finally received the call that we were waiting for. We could proceed with the adoption application! She was to move in with us, we were to take the foster parent course, and she had to live with us for 6 months before we could finalize the adoption. On January 25, 2004, Cassidy moved into our home as our foster child. We had spent the weekend before painting her room pink and purple, moving in bunk beds and making it her special place. My best friend had even painted a watercolor Dora the Explorer which was Cassidy’s favorite cartoon that we hung on the wall!